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GatheringUs: An Online Platform for Memorials and Funerals

GatheringUs is a lasting online space that brings communities together after a death. You can post a free obituary, crowdfund for expenses or a charity, create gatherings and inform your community. And your community can stay informed, share memories, and be there to support you.

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 16, 2020Funerals, Memorials, Virtual Gatherings
What I Learned From My Own Wedding

My wife and I were married in 2011, just after same sex marriage became legal in New York. Here are a few lessons from my own experience that I find myself repeating most often.

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Resources, ReflectionsMonica-Lisa MillsApril 13, 2020Weddings
Create Online Memorials, Celebration Websites, or Tribute Biographies

LifePosts enables you to tell the stories of someone’s life, whether it’s a simple announcement, or a vibrant, multifaceted web experience. Create a free, online memorial or tribute that will capture the person or moment.

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Memorials, Virtual Gatherings, Milestones
Ceremonies For Those Dealing With Death at a Distance

In these times, many face the reality of having loved ones pass away and not being able to be with them at their side. Coming together in-person to commemorate their life is also a challenge. These ceremonies help small groups of family members and friends gather online to commemorate this significant loss and remember their loved ones. [From: Memoriam Services]

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Funerals, Virtual Gatherings
Funerals and Dying in Absentia: Inspiration and Tips During Covid-19

How can we honor a life in the absence of funeral? What can we do to show our love when we can’t be there to hold the hand of a dying loved one? How can we cultivate social and emotional connection without the benefit of being physically present? [From: The Order of the Good Death]

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Virtual Gatherings, Funerals, Memorials
Leading Groups Online

This is a basic introduction to effectively leading online meetings and events. We bring experience in both formal classrooms and grassroots training, and expect this to be useful to a wide range of people in leading online spaces.

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Virtual Gatherings
Basic Wedding Ceremony Outline

When I am planning a wedding ceremony, I start with a template and then work with the couple to rearrange it (or blow it all up). Here are the major elements to consider.

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Weddings
Principles for Online Ritual Design

Here are five design principles that we’ve developed for our work at Sacred Design Lab, which we hope will support you in crafting and leading online rituals of your own. These ideas can be applied to anything from funerals and weddings to birthday parties, holidays, and rites of passage.

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ResourcesMonica-Lisa MillsApril 10, 2020Virtual Gatherings

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